Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Bad critiques and Writing the Next Line.
Well, today is quick and easy. I want to thank Crystal for the Sweet Blogger award. She is the sweetest--go check out her blog.
Mark your calenders--I will host another Writing the Next Line on May 12th. I have work related duties and will be M.I.A. for a few days. When I return, I will post the story in full.
Flirt Blogfest hosted by Critique This on May 16th.
I also wanted to answer a question that was asked by Alexandra Shostak in yesterday's comments.
Go and check out her blog after you read this one. ;)
She asked, "Have you ever had a really BAD critique?" If you mean BAD as in curl myself into a ball in a dark room and cry my eyes out, YES.
I don't want to sound like I'm some super woman who doesn't react. I do. Everytime I post something that I have written or send my WiP to anyone to critique (including CPs) my stomach gets all knotty and sick. My mind usually gives me the lecture on doubt. You know the one where it tells you that you are not a good writer, you're never going to get anywhere, what are you thinking, etc. I have to get over it though. My design experience has helped me with this--criticism. It has toughen me a little.
That's not to say that I don't get a stinging feeling in my gut when there is a bunch of red on the page. Tears do well up and sometimes fall and I go curl up on the couch eating a bunch of chocolate along with ice cream. I feel that I have to chalk it up to learning and making my WiP the best it can be. I also turn it into motivation to prove that I can. My life has some regret and I don't want anymore of it especially if I love to do it. It makes me happy when I can create something from my heart.
The other thing is I don't have a lot of time to focus on the negative. If I do, my family will suffer. I have two young ones at home and it's hard enough to keep up with them. If I'm depressed they are super bad. Again, this does happen now and again but not as much as it used to. I'm a natural pessimist so I can fall into the depression trap real easy. I need to try and focus on all the happy I can.
I have my moments of utter doubt and I vent on the negativity that comes my way. I'll post about it and you wonderful folks will make me feel better. So thanks for that!
You may want to ask me this question again when I start to query because patience is not my strengh. He He. ;)
So, have you had a BAD critique?
How do you handle criticism?
Have a great day!