Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Lather on the sunscreen

When I started to put my work out, ya know, take my writing seriously, I thought I knew what was coming. In a sense I did. I was scared out of my mind and it super hurt when I would get feedback. Even though I knew not everyone would like it, secretly deep down, I thought maybe they would. I mean, it's my baby, everyone loves babies. After a while and through many tears, I woke up.

Writing is hard. We all know this. It requires dedication and the want to continue to learn and grow. We love to develop characters and stories we love. We continue to put our work out there to achieve this. Once we think we have it, most of the time we don't. A polished manuscript takes time and eyes that help us see what could make it stronger. Trust me, I get blinded by my love so it takes others to point out what may be the problem. The thing is you must learn to take criticism. Some of us already wear a tough skin, but with some of us it, takes time and many years of protective sunscreen to do it.

Our first critiques may have burned us to the core--to the point of tears. After you go through it many, many, many (I could add more 'manys' but you get the picture) times, you begin to see what is helpful and what is not. What is simply opinion and what is going to make your manuscript shine. You have to go through layers of building up this skin that will resist the painful stings of feedback. Don't get me wrong, some feedback is good, super healthy in fact, but the ones that may leave a burn take time to learn how to deal with.

So as you go on your journey keep in mind it takes time. Take in the feedback and rejection and use it as layers to protect you, and learn from it, don't get burned from it. Allow yourself to grow and understand what is best for you.

How are you dealing with your rejections?

Have a great day!!


  1. I have an easier time with rejections than I do with feedback. With feedback, you have to figure which comments you agree with, and hope by making the change, you aren't messing things up. I've had to change scenes back to what they were, because a beta didn't agree with the newest change due to someone else's comments.

    The only thing you have to be careful with when it comes to rejections is that you aren't changing your ms because of it (unless you agree with the comments). The agent didn't share your vision for the story, and therefore their feedback might not be the best for your story.

  2. I just keep writing and telling myself that every rejection brings me closer to acceptance. I may be on the slow boat but eventually I'll get there.

  3. Most of the feedback has been good, even if it meant changing things. Don't like rejection (who does) but it never really bothers me.

  4. I learned how not to take criticism personally in high school thanks to an awesome creative writing teacher. It really does help so much to develop thick skin!

  5. I don't have experience with rejection yet, but I try to remember that feedback is supposed to be helpful and that it will make my writing stronger. Also, I let it sit for a couple days and eat my feelings :)