Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Insecure Writer's Support Group

I can't believe a month has gone by. I know I say this every time I post for this group, but seriously, the months are passing by fast. Anyway, thanks to the amazing Alex J. Cavanaugh for hosting and organizing this wonderful group. Go check out the other lovely folks who participate.


 
 So, lately I've been out of touch. Mainly because I've been focusing on my writing. And now, I'm about to head down into the revision cave again. Yes, I got some feedback on my MS, and well, it's not terrible. Shocking for me. I do have some cleaning up to do and some things will change, but I actually have a story to work with. I plan to query this one. I'm not sure when. I'm trying to give myself a loose deadline, which I'll keep to myself . . . for now.
 
Last year, I pushed and pushed to query, and guess what, the story wasn't ready. I had written and revised that darn thing on and off for almost four years. I've learned a lot since then so my process is different and I'm more sure of my ability to put words on paper. I continue to challenge myself and grow as a writer. My focus is on my writing and strengthening, not solely getting an agent.
 
That was my focus before. If I got an agent, I would be respected and the non-believers would believe that I can. Where that can be true, I also must prove that I can . . .to me. You see, having an agent isn't the end. Sure, you have arrived and moved up the writing world ladder, closer to that publishing dream. But with that comes more demands, expectations, and pressure. The pros and cons do apply here just like they do with every part of life. But from what I've seen, it's also not all wine and roses. Things happen and getting an agent doesn't mean that you will be published or even remain together. Breakups happen. The thing is--nothing is certain.
 
What I do know is that I want this. I do. But I want to do it right. It doesn't mean nothing bad will happen, it means that's not my only focus. It's where I want to be at some point--when I'm ready. Of course, if an agent was interested in my work tomorrow, I'd be sending it ASAP. It just means my focus is writing, strengthening, and continue writing the stories I love. I will follow my path and not listen to those who don't believe. Cause one day, it will happen.
 
What's your focus?
 
Where do you want to be?
 
Have a great day!!

16 comments:

  1. A great post to read, It's hard to focus on everyday things when one is writing. I long to be in Spain with my youngest son at the moment but because of hospital appointments have to wait.

    Yvonne.

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  2. That's a very good focus and the right attitude to take!

    When you say you got feedback and it wasn't terrible, do you mean you've actually received feedback in the past that said the story was terrible -- or that you felt terrible when you saw the feedback because of what needed to be done? I'm guessing it's the second one, and I've got to tell you, I still get that "terrible" feeling when I get feedback, whether it's from a CP, a beta reader, or an editor. (Oddly, my agent's feedback has never made me feel anything but good. She must have some magical ability to suggest changes that excite me.)

    I've been assigned to write a post on this for Write On Con. I think maybe I'll work on that today!

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  3. I love that you realized where your focus needed to be. I remember going through the same thing: feeling like I just had to get an agent or the world would fall off its axis. When I changed my focus to bettering my writing, myself, and my techniques, that's when it all changed and I signed with my agent. I risked stepping outside myself - which scared me to death - but I did it; glad I did.

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  4. Hi Christine! I'm new to the Support Group. I like that your focus is on the writing and not getting an agent. I too have not snagged an agent. My focus is the readers. I long for readers. Happy to be here! Keep taking risks!

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  5. An agent is one step closer, but you're right about the extra demands. At that point, you need to be able to perform your best. Trust me, get the experience before you sign a deal for your first book. You'll be in a much better position!

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  6. I was so much happier when I stopped focusing on getting an agent. It's true that the pressure never goes away - I have a publishing contract, yet this brings its own insecurities, and I still freak out at the thought of people reading my work! It's definitely best to focus on where YOU want to be, and getting an agent isn't the be-all and end-all. Great advice!

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  7. I love your focus. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. While you query agents, also query publishers. I self-published, found an agent, who did nothing for over a year and then I found a publisher. It's up and down and all around, no matter what you decide, just be open to all possibilities!

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  9. I'm no where near querying or anything of the sort. But I can say that the lesson you've pointed out- that you must please you with your writing- is very true. I know for me, that the more I challenge myself, the more I take risks, the more I push myself to grow, the better I feel. And when that leads to publishing and agents and all that doesn't matter as much as the process of growing as a writer and knowing- myself- that I am growing. Do what you love, put a little faith into fate, and see what comes of it!

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  10. My focus right now while I'm unable to write is to do everything I can to prepare myself when that time does return. :)

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  11. So true. I'm trying to keep my focus on doing what I love: crafting stories.

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  12. Good luck with your revisions! It can be a tedious job, though necessary. I think of it as...cud.
    ~Just Jill

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  13. Man this sounds like me. I sent out many queries last year and didn't realize how un-ready my story was. It's trial and error. :)

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  14. Sounds as if you have your head on straight, Christine. Growing as a writer is all I hope to do at this point. I know I've rushed to submit things that weren't ready.

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  15. This is a great focus to have! Thanks for sharing.

    www.modernworld4.blogspot.com

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  16. Awesome focus. One book took my five years on and off. I swear I thought it would be the death of me lol.

    My focus is working on a paranormal suspense series.

    www.donna-realworldwriting.blogspot.com

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