Monday, May 19, 2014

How I Found The Write Path Blogfest

Today, I'm taking part in How I Found the Write Path Blogfest. A big thanks to Carrie Butler for putting all of this together. Check out the other amazing participants here.

 

 
Dear Past Self,
Hey there! It’s me, you, but in the future. Crazy, right? Anyway, this journey you’re about to embark on is crazy hard. Deep down, I think you know that, but you have to face it and embrace it. There will be a ton of rejection and heartache. Lots of tears and those demons that like to make you feel like you’re not worth much. Yep, they’ll come. When you query, they’ll double, well, triple in size.
Stay strong. I know it’s easy for me to say, but you must. You need to take the support when others offer. It’s okay. It’s doesn’t make you weak. You know the people I’m talking about. They’ll guide you and help you in so many ways. So listen to them.
And don’t compare yourself to anyone. ANYONE. Everyone’s path is different.  It’s true. I know you’ll try and ignore me, but it’s really true. All the feedback you get will be left up to you to determine. That whole follow-your-gut thing. Yep. It’s true. You need to keep writing everyday and taking the opportunities that you know are good for you. Trust me.
When you query, let things slide off. Rejection only makes you stronger. I know that’s something everyone tells you, but it’s true. It still hurts, but you'll learn how to channel the hot pokers that strike your heart. Always be aware that there are options in publishing so keep an open mind. Success is only what you make it. And opinions are just that—opinions. Throw them up and let them fly like petals on the wind. Make sure to keep the ones you cherish close to your heart. You’ll know who means well.
The confidence you have now will fade in and out. It may even get crushed. Don’t let it. Remain strong and believe in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, it’ll show. Never EVER think you’re below anyone. Your path is different from the others. That’s all. When you’re at the point where it seems like everyone in the world is published or has an agent but you, you’re still not below anyone. So please, don’t think that.
Patience is also key. Now I know you pretty much have none so figure out how to deal with waiting months and months (possibly never) from agents. It’s how this all works. There are no short cuts. Everything takes time so distract yourself by writing something else. It’ll do you good. Think about it, the more you write the stronger you become.
And the biggy--this is all subjective. Not everyone is going to like your stuff. You don’t like every book you read so not everyone will like yours. All you need to do is keep writing and enjoying the process of creating magic. All those characters in your head need a life on paper; otherwise, they’ll drive you nuts when they talk all at once. No sense in that. You don’t want to look crazy.
So keep going. You’re on the right track. One day things will happen and some people will love your stories. Just believe in yourself and crush the doubting demons. They aren’t kind and only hold you back. You are amazing and you will get there.
Love,
Your Future Self

Christine Danek
Blog: www.christinedanek.blogspot.com
Twitter @christinedanek

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25 comments:

  1. Not everyone will like what we write - we just have to find those who do!

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  2. These are some really great tips! I'm enjoying reading these posts. :)

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  3. Yes, confidence and patience and grace all fade in and out, like ocean waves. One great thing is that you know they never stay stuck and still!

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  4. So many sage pieces of advice here. This industry is hard, it's subjective, but like a certain shampoo tag line, totally worth it!

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  5. Patience and rejection certainly go hand in hand, don't they? You hit a ton of great thoughts here, Christine, but the most important one is that we all set out on different journeys. And all of our voices are unique.
    As we continue on our separate paths, it's nice to have the support of our colleagues pushing us and helping us navigate better so we are not alone. The roads might seem long but the lessons are what builds us and makes us stronger=)

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  6. I really like your letter! You're so kind to yourself, and you give yourself plenty of wisdom on the subjectivity of the industry and the importance of believing in your individuality. It rings true for me, too.

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  7. Great letter, especially the part about not liking everything we read.

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  8. "It's how this all works..." Boy, don't we wish that could change. But your advice is spot on. A wonderful letter to your budding-writer-self.

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  9. I love the line "face it and embrace it". Great advice. Also with the patience. Yup, that's a biggie. Still working on that one. :-)

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  10. Let it slide off...patience in the key... Yes! Such great advice, and you're totally right. Rejection does make you stronger, if you can press through it and listen to the positive voices. Here's to persevering!

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  11. Wonderful advice! Each writer as a unique voice and a unique journey. We just need to trust our writing and keep moving forward. :)

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  12. Really inspiring letter and I like the part about everything being subjective. We can't control what people think - some will like it and some not. We just have to continue down our writing path!

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  13. Patience is definitely one of the hardest things about publishing. Everything takes forever.

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  14. totally right on! have patience, don't fear rejections, and don't compare yourself. gold babe, gold!!

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  15. I like your thread of needed strength. It's so true. And yes, this business is subject. Good luck as you continue writing!

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  16. So many of us have written about the need for patience, inner strength, and believing in ourselves. They're so important! Survival skills, think :)

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  17. The whole not comparing yourself is SO true!! Something I'm massively guilty of for sure.

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  18. Yes, those doubts must be crushed!
    Of all the great advice you gave in your letter, "keep enjoying the process of creating magic" was the best :)

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  19. Great line about opinions! A wonderful and uplifting letter.

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  20. Yes! Well said, Christine. :D

    Thank you so much for participating!

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  21. It's so important not to compare oneself to others. Great letter.

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  22. This is such a wise letter, Christine. I think you've touched on every one of my insecurities. Not sure if that means I have more insecurities now than when I started, or I just have a more realistic perspective.

    VR Barkowski

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  23. "There are no short cuts." So true. A wise and inspiring letter, Christine. Don't you wish we could really write to our younger selves? Sigh...

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  24. I love that you said to let the rejection to slide off and that they make you stronger. I had to learn to not let every rejection butcher me, as most writers do. Now though, I am stronger for them. :)

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